Motherhood is a lot harder than anyone tells you it will be, but it also is crazy happier than you would ever believe also. The hard days filled with tears make the good days that much sweeter. I haven’t been a mom for very long, but I have learned a heck of a lot in those short 18 months so I figured that I could share with you. Like I said, I am no expert, but these are things that I need to A take my own advice on and B have really worked on the past year and a half to make motherhood that much sweeter.
1. Get down to their level. The world is a huge place for little people, squat down to them or hold them up to you when you talk to them. Watching their expressions while you talk to them is the greatest thing. I can hardly keep a straight face when King is pulling faces while I talk to him. Crawl on the floor with them, sit in the dirt, being on their level is a whole new world that is my absolute favorite world.
2. Laugh everything off or you just may cry. I have shed a lot of tears, but I have found that when I laugh it off (when King isn’t looking if he is in trouble) it helps me to not be so frustrated and not shed so many tears. Laugh at the spilled pretzels, the bright colored M&M’s hands that are now all over their clothes, the remotes in the toilet. It is okay to be frustrated, but laugh it off as soon as you can force yourself to, it makes things so much happier. Sit in the mess, cry for a minute, and then look at your crazy ridiculous life and laugh.
4. Take a bath, eat some ice-cream, cry, get the biggest Diet Coke that you can, every single night. You need something for you. Reflect on the day, laugh at those crazy moments, pat yourself on the back for making it through the hard times, and just take 5 minutes for yourself, or however long you need. It’s okay to take time for you. You have ran and chased a little one all day long, love yourself, be proud of yourself, you made it through another day mama.
5. Give yourself grace. The dishes, it drives me crazy to have them in the sink. A mess house, gives me straight up anxiety. Being a mom is hard, keeping up with your home is hard, taking care of yourself is hard, you can’t do it all. BUT, you can love your little one and you can give yourself some grace. Don’t be so hard on yourself mama. All you need to do is love that little one so much and let them know you love them. It isn’t easy thats for sure, but try, try to love yourself and give yourself a little grace.
You can do it mama. You can do amazing things. You are doing amazing things! You are raising a darling little one that loves you so much. You take care of their needs, love them, and pray for them. You worry that you are taking care of them good enough, that right there means that you are constantly striving to be the best mama you can be. Everyone has struggle days, everyone has rockstar days. They are all hard days, but you are killing it mama!
Photos by Emmy Lowe