February 21, 2017

5 WAYS TO INSTILL CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF AS A MAMA.

Being a mama can be so rough. It has the highest of highs and the absolute lowest of lows. I have found that I have a lot more lows when I am not feeling as confident about myself as I normally do. I am sure this happens to all of us more than we would like to admit to. I have found though, when I am constantly working on my self confidence and making sure that I am taking care of, that I have a lot more happy and “high” days. I am a better mom, happier with myself, and a better wife. I am confident in the choices I make for my family and can make them easier with my head on straight. 

1 – Getting myself somewhat ready everyday. This is something that makes a huge difference to me. If I wake up, put my favorite Dove Advanced Care Antiperspirant on, do my hair, a little makeup, my day is so much more productive. I feel put together, I look somewhat put together, and the things on my to-do list seem to go so much quicker. I know that I don’t smell, I have the yummy Dove Advanced Care Antiperspirant in . Here is something that is maybe TMI, but all growing up I would get this terrible rash in my armpits…it was painful, super red, and awful. I was a cheerleader in high school and would get so anxious every time I had to wear my uniform because I knew people would see my rash. I was super self conscious and anxious about it constantly. I started switching my antiperspirants and deodorants and started using Dove. When I started using Dove, my rashes went completely away. Like completely gone. I have never looked back, I only use Dove, have for over 10 years, and won’t use anything different. The thing I love about their Dove Advanced Care Antiperspirant is that it has 48 hours of wetness protection and skin care benefits. See you guys, I’m telling you, this stuff is golden and my armpits don’t hurt any more so it is a total win. 

2 – While I am getting ready I say affirmations to myself in the mirror every morning no matter how rough our mornings start. I tell myself, “I am beautiful”, “I am strong”, “I am a good mom”, “I will be patient today”, “I will fuel my body with healthy foods”, etc. Say whatever you need to say. You might feel silly at first, maybe won’t believe them, but I promise if it is something that you do every day, you will feel so much better about yourself and you will start to believe them. 

3 – Fuel your body with healthy foods. Whenever I am eating healthy, I feel so much better. I know that I am treating my body well because I love it and love that it has allowed me to carry a baby, chase King around the house, kiss my husband, workout, etc. Our bodies are amazing things. I’m not saying not to treat yourself, you know I eat an entire tub of movie theater popcorn every Tuesday night while watching the bachelor with Zach, I am just saying to make sure you are drinking enough water, eating fruits and veggies, etc. You will feel better I promise and more confident.

4. Give yourself some grace. This one is so hard for me. I feel a pressure from somewhere, I don’t know where because it isn’t Zach to keep a clean house, have dinner ready when he gets home, have all the laundry done, do activities with King where we are all giggling and laughing at all times, and have this “perfect” life. A perfect life to me isn’t a life where I am chasing King around picking up every mess he makes while he makes it. That isn’t fun. It isn’t a perfect life. I want a life well lived with messes on my floors that we are laughing and making, I want to not be stressed up that there are piles of laundry, etc. Give yourself a break, give yourself some grace. You will be so much happier if you don’t have these crazy expectations of yourself, what your life should be, and how it “should be lived”. Want the life you have. It isn’t about what you want, it is about wanting what you have. 

5 – Do something for yourself every single day. Whether it is dancing in the kitchen to Spice Girls, eating a cookie, having a Diet Coke, or writing in your journal. Do something for you. Do something that makes you happy, feel fulfilled, and like you are important! It can take 30 seconds, or a couple hours. It doesn’t matter, but make time for it, make time for you. If you aren’t taken care of, you can’t take care of the people you love like you want to. 

I hope these tips will help you! Doing all of the consistently has changed my life. It has helped me to love myself, love the phase of life I am in, and love what I have. 

XX
dani

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