COMPARISON
Too often I find myself comparing myself to others. To the people that I look up to. To the people that inspire me. I find myself thinking negative about myself, my blog, the way I live my life, etc. I wonder too myself, Why don’t I have that many Instagram followers? Why did her post get more comments than mine? How is her life more happy than mine? Why does she look better in that top than me? Why do her pictures turn out better than mine? How come she has kids that she isn’t happy with and I can’t have one baby? Why can’t we afford a house like them? What is wrong with me? UGH! I need to STOP now!! Comparison is so evil. So mean. So demeaning. It takes away happiness. Brings sorrow and awful things into my life. It is not okay!!
I have really took a step back and looked at what I am comparing myself to. I compare my weaknesses to other people strengths. To other peoples happiest moments, I compare my saddest. My trials to their triumphs. I struggle to see my strengths and only notice my weakness. I make my triumphs seem small to others because I don’t want to come across like I am “bragging” or “full of myself”. All this does for me is plays everything I am good at down in my head. It doesn’t allow happiness. It doesn’t let me feel as if I am succeeding! THAT’S NOT FAIR!! It’s not fair to let myself see others happiness, triumphs, etc. and put them up higher than mine. I am DONE! I am going to shout my successes, triumphs, happiness from the roof tops! I am going to allow myself to be happy about what I have accomplished and done.
Happiness is a choice. It is a choice that isn’t easily made everyday, but it is a choice. You have the choice of how you respond to things that happen during your day or that you see on social media. I am going to stop the jealousy of those I am comparing myself to and start being happy for them. It may be really hard, and it isn’t going to happen over night. But I vow to myself that I am going to allow myself to be happy, to be exciting for others successes and to share my successes with others!
If you are still reading this, first thank you for getting through it! Second, do you struggle with comparison? Or am I just crazy?? You can tell me I’m crazy! I know I am 🙂 Love you girl!
XO
I do the same thing unfortunately. but what helps me is that i think that there are some things i have or something that i’m stronger in that others don’t and that’s what makes me special. 🙂 Same goes for you!
It is a hard thing to make go away. I love that you think that! I am going to have to try it!
XO
How funny that we had such similar posts today! It’s such a constant struggle, it’s hard! I’m always here for you!! And freak, we live so close, we should just get together sometime!
I know right!? Cracked me up! I was glad to see I’m not the only one that struggles with it… Umm yes can we please do lunch or something ASAP!?
you know I do. Thanks for the long chat the other night 🙂
You’re definitely not crazy. We all do this. One thing that has always helped me with these issues is to have a journal or just one piece of paper where you can write down things about yourself that you are satisfied with and make you happy. Maybe even make a blog post about it! Doing things that constantly make you feel like you’re ENOUGH.
I am going to have to try that! Thanks so much for the suggestion girl. It feels good knowing I’m not the only one!
XO
I love that! I have never thought of what I’m comparing. the whole comparing others strengths/happiest moments to my weaknesses/saddest moments. ha. wow, this is seriously a life changer for me. Thanks for pointing it out!! 🙂 hugs!!!