I'm going to be HAPPY, and there is nothing you can do about it!
0Source: My Fabulous Life
A new year. Oh how I love that. There is just something about a new start, a new beginning. Yes you can start your new beginning whenever you would like, but there is just something about starting it with a new year. I am going to get a little personal on here today and I hope you can relate to me even if just a little bit.
I am a very shy person. I don’t like to get out of my comfort zone. I like to be around people who I know and people that I know like me. I don’t like to be vulnerable. This is a huge fault of mine that I have been working on for quite some time now. (the main reason I started my blog). I worry a lot. I worry about what people think of me. What they are saying about me. What they think in their heads but don’t say out loud in fear that it will hurt me. I stress that I have hurt someones feelings. That I didn’t say hello to them when I saw them at the store or at church. That I missed someones birthday. All of these things have started to control my life. They have made me a total basket case. I don’t sleep at night due to worrying and I am not okay with that. I am not okay not being happy, not being me, worrying that someone doesn’t like the real me. I am DONE! I have had it! I am going to live happy. I am going to make myself happy and if that doesn’t make you happy I am sorry. I am going to laugh, smile, take funny pictures that aren’t flattering, say what I am thinking, and most of all stand up for myself! In 2014 I am done worrying! I am done stressing! I am going to be truly happy and truly me!
Society these days is all about who has the better decorations in their home, who has the best pictures on instagram, who makes the healthiest dinners for their perfect family, wearing the most expensive designer clothes, who has the better job, etc. It is so competitive and so demeaning to me and maybe you too. I don’t think we can live happily if we are always comparing ourselves to others. We need to be the best person that we can be. I am 100% guilty of comparing. I want to have everyone’s best qualities that they share on their instagram feed or blog. People are really good at hiding their bad qualities. I think that it is so important to be real with each other. That we let each other see that we aren’t perfect and that we haven’t made our beds, or that we are still in our sweats with our hair not done at 2:00. Life isn’t about being perfect. It is about being happy! It is about being the best person you can be and going to bed knowing that, ya you made mistakes, but you did the best you could that day! I am going to make a strong effort to share my good, bad, and ugly with you! I am just like you. I am sitting here writing this at 2:00 pm on my bed that isn’t made with my laundry all over the floor in my sweat pants because I just don’t want to get ready yet! I am far from perfect! I want to be your friend, the person you can relate to, and the person that you feel like you come to read my blog because you “get me”. I am going to share stories of how my poor husband does all the dishes because I hate them and I leave them pilled in the sink for days because I want him to take care of them. Stories of my successes and my defeats! This blog is going to be more than just pictures of my outfits (which I love to share) but a place that you come to see that you aren’t the only one who isn’t perfect. That someone else understands that you had a bad day and so did they. That is my goal! I am going to be happy sharing my successes and my defeats with you!
I think having a new years resolution is a good thing, as long as it is something that is realistic and that you truly want to better about yourself and you are going to put your whole heart and soul into. We all break new years resolutions. We make them too complicated. We make too many of them. We make unrealistic goals. This year I challenge you to make 1 goal. It can be 1 word, or 1 phrase. I challenge you to make it something that you are going to put your whole being into. Your entire heart and soul. Something that you will continually think about. Mine this year is live happy. I am living happy!! I would love for you to share your resolutions with me! Let’s be a support system to each other! You can make your resolution the same as mine, or something that you have been working on for some time. Let’s do this together! Let’s better our selves in 2014!
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Being truly happy is a great thing!! You got this! 🙂 Happy New Year!!
I love this Dani. I think about this all the time myself and have made so many adjustments in the past 4 years of my life to NOT be this way. I’d been living in a VERY small town SUPER Northern Maine and it’s not as competitive up there, everyone just lives and is happy, and looks out for one another, I’ve taken that with me since I’ve moved. It is so hard to keep it in check with facebook or instagram where people only show the highlights of their lives: their best photos and best moments.
Happy New Year, being happy!
Kallie, http://www.butfirstcoffeeblog.com
Way to be Dani, this is great. I admire your willingness to be open and confront your fears. 🙂 for the record I think you’re pretty darn swell as it is.
Love this! I am very similar, in that I’m pretty shy too. You’re right though, you have to live for yourself and be happy for you! Good luck and have a beautiful year!
I love this, Dani! I am extremely shy so I know exactly what you mean! It’s part of the reason I started blogging as well! I think I’ll be adopting this “live happy” resolution!
Sierra
Life as a Waterleaf