A LIFE OF COMPARISON
If you follow me on Snapchat (danimariekrum) you saw my “story” yesterday about social media and comparison. Seriously, it is killing me and I am not okay with it. I think it is good to be honest about these things especially with having a blog and placing myself, my family, and our story on the Internet. It is so easy to get caught up in what is placed on your social media. Social media is generally about showing the highlights and good things in your life and that is okay, but it is so easy to get caught up in everyone else’s highlights and good moments when you are in your bad moments. Everyone has bad times, everyone has bad days that they don’t get dressed all day, their house is a mess, they burned dinner, the baby has cried all day, etc. EVERYONE! However, I think often times we only look at our bad times and compare them to someone else’s good/highlights or at least I know I do. I want to not care what people think about me more than anything else… I want to put up the first “selfie” I take instead of taking over 100 and then still worrying about what I am posting, I want to be confident, strong, and a fighter. I want to be that example for King more than anything else. Now it’s just how to get there… When I notice myself thinking and comparing myself I try to stop it immediately, it is so much easier said than done though. I try to tell myself positive things about myself, look at my highlight moments, even if they are small battles that I have won like that I got dressed and ready today when King was fussy all day because of teething, or that I may have not got to the dishes, but I made dinner and played on the floor with King… While my successes may be small in comparison to others, IT IS OKAY! Those successes are my own, they are winning battles that may be hard for me that day. Someone else may not have the chance to have a success like mine and for that I am grateful that I was able to have that success.
If you have any tips or anything about comparison please leave them in the comments below. It is something that we as women all battle, it is hard to admit, and that we can build and strengthen each other to overcome it! You are amazing, you are a fighter, you got this girl.
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Comparing myself to others is probably my biggest issue. It’s so hard for me not to do it. Some days I’m good about not doing it, then I fall right back into it. My favourite quote about comparison is “Comparison is the thief of joy” (Theodore Roosevelt). Whenever I find that I am comparing myself to others, I have to say that to myself (which is about ten times a day).
Kristi | Be Loverly
Thanks for this! Last night I posted about reaching a weight loss goal that I’ve been working towards for a Loooong time. I was so excited and proud!!! I really had to fight hard for it.
But, it makes me crazy that I felt bad about only getting 6 “likes”. Especially about not getting recognition from a few key people in my life. I really need to get a hold on this!
I struggle with this ALL THE TIME. Sometimes more than once in a day. At times I find it difficult to be happy for others’ accomplishments and good fortune, especially when I want those things for myself or my family. I find it helpful to remind myself of something I say to my students all the time – fair is not equal. Fair is not everyone getting the same treatment or opportunities. Fair is not promotions and vacations for everyone. Fair is what having what we need to be successful, and sometimes, all you need is simply what you already have (even if a fancy new purse seems like a better option). I think it’s also good to take note that we are the boss of ourselves, and we have the power to make change if we really want to, if it is truly necessary. I can lust over flat abs and toned legs all day, but unless I get off my butt and do something about it, I really have no reason to complain ?