HOW TO BE HAPPY.
Life is about being happy right? So what makes someone truly happy? Is it a happy family? Nice House? Cars? Diet Coke? I think that certain things make different people happy. For one person it could be a nice home and cars, for someone else if they lived in a cardboard box with their healthy family they would be happy. One thing that I know for sure is that comparing my life to other peoples lives makes my life truly unhappy. I think as women we tend to sometimes get caught up in comparing other peoples highlights of their lives to our dirty moments. I think that the place that I am constantly comparing myself is on Instagram… People choose what they put on there, and most people chose to put the things that are the happiest times of their life on there. You know, like the perfectly cooked meal and the clean house, or the table cloth they just perfectly sewed. When I see these posts I often think to myself, why can’t I have it all put together like them? My meal didn’t hit all the main food groups like so-and-so. Wow they can sew, cook, clean, serve others, and take their kids to the park! I can’t even get dinner on the table… All of these thoughts just make me feel awful about myself. I feel like a failure… It takes a lot for me to pull myself from this trap of comparing.
One thing that I have found that helps me to keep my happy is when I start thinking these things looking at someones Instagram, blog, Facebook, etc. I have to sit down and write all my accomplishments for the day, even if it’s just that I got up, got dressed, and made it to work a few minutes early. I also sit down and think about all the blessings that I have in my life. I am healthy. I am growing a sweet healthy baby. I have the sweetest husband that supports me in everything I do. I have a car that gets me where I need to be. I have a home and a neighborhood that I love. I have so many blessings in my life so why am I unhappy with it!? Why do I allow myself to think those things?
Here is a list of my happy right now:
- Sweet baby kicks that I get to feel all day everyday now.
- The fact that I am finally going to be a mom in 15 short weeks!
- Diet Coke and Donuts. Need I say more?
- A healthy body that allows me to grow this sweet baby.
- Taking Matt to school. How perfect of a job is that?
- Buying little boy clothes!
- When my husband comes home from work.
- Sweet comments from YOU!
- My growing belly.
Happiness is different for you and me. All I know is that life isn’t happy when I compare my dirty moments to your shining moments. So instead of comparing, I am going to be happy for you and everyone else’s shining moments! I am not going to let them take away my happy and you shouldn’t either! Let’s be happy together!
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Jessica Dimas says
i think this is so great and i loved how you shared your struggles with not comparing yourself, because we all do it and it’s hard not to on sites like instagram and Facebook. i definitely try to remember that they are putting up their best (it’s hard when their homes are SO GORGEOUS AND THEN I LOOK AROUND AT MINE, LOL!). BUT WE HAVE TO REMEMBER INSTAGRAM IS VERY STAGED FOR THE MOST PART. THANKS FOR SHARING THIS GREAT REMINDER 🙂
lorna mai says
You’re quite right. No matter how difficult life can be, we all have blessings to be greateful for. Congratulations on your pregnancy.
i love this post- it really resonated with me. i’m constantly comparing myself to people to. whether it be on instagram or facebook or reading other bloggers blogs. thanks for the advice! i love this look, the necklace, and the boots. i think i’ll have to get a pair of your boots. i’m a daily reader of your blog… all the way from nyc 🙂