OPENING UP…
The reason I started my blog is to get over my fear of putting myself out there. To get over my fear of rejection and people saying harsh things to me. I am trying to hard to do this, but I still worry, a lot. I have made leaps and bounds from where I first started, but still have a ways to go before I get to where I want to be. I had a rough time in high school. I dated someone who didn’t treat me very well… He made me very self conscious of everything about my self. I have tried so hard to get over it and not let it ruin the person I am. I really struggle in letting the mean things people say to me go, they stay with me forever. Just like in 6th grade I remember standing by the coat racks and a girl (yes, I remember her name, but won’t say it…) asked me if I did my own hair (of course I did because I thought I was cool, and no it wasn’t the cutest ha) I replied yes and she told me how awful and ugly it was. I remember one exact sentence she said “Maybe you should stop trying, because you can’t tell you tried anyways”. I remember that and it has stuck with me for all these years. If any of you have suggestions on how to not keep these things with me please let me know. I really want to better myself and this is one major step.
I am going to try to stop editing what I say a million times in fear of what someone might think of what I say, or that I might hurt someones feelings. I am going to say what I feel and what I am thinking instead. I just want to thank all of you for supporting me on my blogging journey. I take each of your comments to heart and appreciate all your sweet words.
Anyways, thanks for letting me open up for a second. I think its important for you all to see who I am, flaws and all. Everyone has flaws, no one is perfect. Some are just better at hiding their flaws than others 🙂 On to today’s outfit post! I love cute knit skirts in the summer and can never seem to get enough of them! I paired this with this light weight cream top and some bright fun jewelry from Foxy Originals, if you haven’t checked out their cute jewelry then you totally need to! There is so much to love there! They are offering my readers all 15% off of all their jewelry! Use promo code foxydani15 this code is only valid until July 13th so use it quick!
Skirt: Forever 21- Lovin this red one! Top: American Eagle (old) Shoes: Target (old) Earrings: c/o: Foxy Originals Necklace: c/o: Foxy Originals
Sometimes it’s hard to open up… but being honest with your fears makes you that much stronger of a person.
PS- love your outfit! xo
Kids are so evil (I was bullied pretty harshly all through the school year, too). I can totally relate to this post and how harsh words stick with you. Rachael is right, being honest about your fears will make you that much stronger! Love your outfit and your gorgeous (and you obviously know how to style your hair! Totally adorable!)
You are so cute! I am glad you are opening up & putting yourself out there. I think most people have a hard time just not caring what the readers are going to think. As goes for me, I put my feelings out there that I feel and don’t edit. So props, girl. Props 🙂
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I think most everyone has a hard time with harsh comments. Early on, I tried to put it all into perspective for me–if it was a person I loved and respected, I tended to give more weight to what was being said (even though sometimes, you’ve got to let that those comments go, too). If it wasn’t a person I was super close to, I just physically made myself shrug my shoulders (helping my brain to think that I really didn’t care), and said, “Oh well. I’ll do what I want.” Lots of research has proven that your body’s physical reaction to the situation at hand actually influences to a large degree the way you end up FEELING about that situation, so if you want to feel more confident or more like you don’t care, stand up straight, shrug your shoulders, roll your eyes (when they’re not looking), puff your chest up…sounds silly, but it’s proven to work.
I LOVE quotes. Quotes help me work through hard things. In the April 2001 General Conference for the LDS Church, Gordon B. Hinckley said something that I have referred back to MANY times! His advice and encouraging word help me when I’m struggling most. I added the words in the []’s to it. He said,
“For you, my dear friends, the sky is the limit. You can be excellent in every way. You can be first class. There is no need for you to be a scrub. Respect yourself. Do not feel sorry for yourself. Do not dwell on unkind things others may say about you. Particularly, pay no attention to what some boy [girl] might say to demean you. He [she] is no better than you. In fact, he [she] has already belittled himself [herself] by his [her] actions. Polish and refine whatever talents the Lord has given you. Go forward in life with a twinkle in your eye and a smile on your face, but with great and strong purpose in your heart.”
Dani, you are a gorgeous woman inside AND out! Keep smiling and having that twinkle in your beautiful eyes. 🙂
Good for you! It’s important to at least recognize that it’s hard and start working on it. I also am scared of people saying mean things. I think making jokes out of mean things people say is a good way to let those things go (at least it works for me anyways). And you are just gorgeous 🙂
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Thanks so much. It really does, it is so hard and scary to open up though!!
They are bullies and mean! I just don’t get how they can feel okay with it? Maybe that is why it upsets me so much is because I would never ever do that to someone else… You are the sweetest girl. Thanks so much! My hair has come a long ways, my husband always tells me that I should never go back to my “ghetto hair” ha ha.
I will for sure try that! Thanks so much for the idea. It is true, your body movements play so much into how your brain receives it. I am glad to hear that it works for you, so I will for sure start trying that. I just am a people pleaser and its so hard for me to not make everyone happy. I would rather myself be sad than to see someone else sad. I know I need to get over it because its not hurting anyone but myself.
My dear Cari. Girl I miss your guts! Can we please go to lunch soon!? I am loving that quote. I am going to have to type it up and put it in a frame. Thanks so much for sharing it with me. You are the sweetest. I really hope you work with me again next year… I don’t know if I can make it through with out you!
Ya, the first step to having a problem is to realize it ha ha. I will have to try making jokes out of it. You are seriously the sweetest. It is because of the sweet people like you that I keep my blog going so THANK YOU!!!
Awesome post. I love it when people dont edit post and are just random and stuff. http://pinkowl07.blogspot.com/2013/06/i-want-to-hit-300.html
Dani- I didn’t even know you had a hard time in high school. Sorry you went through all that. Your blog is really fun and I hope it’s doing for you what you wanted it to.
very nice post. If I were to go back in time I would tell my younger self to snap out of it. I too, cared a lot about fitting in and was afraid of what others thought of me. It held me back. I feared social situations. I find the older I get, the less I care. And it is a wonderful feeling. Those that say mean things to you, they were never good for you in the first place. Now that I’m a mom, I find no time for negative, critical people. Stay strong, your blog is great!
Hi Dani,
You should always embrace who YOU are. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks or says. You are a beautiful young lady and should be confident, say what is on your mind (without thinking about it a thousand times over) and step out of the past and only look forward. Letting go of those hurtful words will only be positive and a step forward. Easier said than done though.
I hope you can let go of what was said in the past and take a look at yourself in the mirror today and be happy and proud of who you are.
Supporting your step towards this change! You go girl!
Just my two cents as I head into my thirties and have learned from my twenties that life is beautiful. Live each day and be in the present!
Much love to you and your blogging adventures.