Ever since I have battled postpartum depression I have had to make some major changes to my life to help my mental state and mental clarity. These have been things that have helped to clear my mind, love myself more, give myself grace, etc. I have been striving to make sure that my metal state is constantly being taken care of and that I am in tune with how I need to be taking care of myself and my mind. Being in tune with my mental state is something that I have realized that I need to be constantly doing and making sure that I am giving it the care that it needs.
|| SELF CHECK-IN’S ||
Every night I check in with myself, I go through my day and see how my mental health was. Was my fuse shorter than normal? Was I on edge all day? How hard was I on myself? I go through these types of questions and then “score” myself in my mind if I had a good mental health day or not. From there I then can decide if I need to re-evaluate the way I am taking care of myself or if what I am doing is working for the time being.
|| JOURNAL ||
When I am going through something really happy or really hard I have found that journaling helps me to get all my thoughts out of my mind and on to paper. It helps me realize all the things that I am thinking and to be able to evaluate them. When I am writing in my journal I don’t let myself really “think” about what I am writing, I just sit down and write and let the rest fall into place. I find myself feeling a lot lighter.
|| SPOUSE CHECK IN’S ||
I make myself check in with Zach about my mental health and have me tell him what I am needing and also have him tell me what he has noticed in me. We have both decided that this is a no offense taken conversation where he can help me to check in with myself and be honest in the things that I am needing and working for to have better mental health.
I hope that these things give you some ideas on what to do to help yourself if you are struggling with your mental state or even just want to better your mental state from where it was. Doing these few things consistently has helped me to be able to know when to ask for help, stay on track with the things that I am wanting for myself, and being mentally sound for myself & family.